Analyzes personality based on planetary influences
at birth
Dr Aundrea Adams, the author of IS THIS THE ONE?, the Love Compatibility Test For Couples,
is an Expert in Relationship Advice with Behavioral Science Psychology degrees
at the Bachelor's, Master's, and Doctorate levels...
over 25 years experience in human relationships and human behavior.
Being a holistic doctor as well, Dr Adams approaches relationship counseling from the vantage point of the whole person-- body, mind and spirit.
This Love Compatibility Test For Couples is not intended to be used as a substitute for marriage counseling
or any other professional service.
It is designed to provide only the author's opinion, based on adequate experience and education,
of the subject matter at hand.
The author assumes no responsibility for any personal liability, loss, or risk incurred as a consequence of the use or application, be it directly or indirectly, of any advice or information presented within the contents of this publication.
People in supportive, loving relationships are more likely to feel healthier, happier and satisfied with their lives and less likely to have mental or physical health problems, but if you are reading this page, there is a good chance that your relationship with your mate is in trouble, maybe even on the verge of breaking up. Research shows that at least 80% of divorces could be prevented if couples would more carefully evaluate certain qualities about their mates while dating. If dating, you may be trying to decide whether to make a commitment. You may even need help selecting which person among several to settle into a relationship with. You could apply this test toward each person you are dating. You may be simply in need of love advice, or to find out if you are with your soulmate. If you are in a commitment relationship or marriage, you may be thinking about breaking up with a cheating spouse or mate. If engaged, you may be having pre-wedding jitters or needing premarital counseling. Whatever the case, your final score analysis will yield expert relationship advice. Consequently, this love test can save you and your mate valuable time and energy.
The average marriage in the United States lasts an average of 7 years (it is not "till death do us part"). One in three first marriages ends in divorce as do two in three second marriages. A University of Minnesota study of 15,000 married couples recently concluded that 50% of married people will never be happy, unless they get unusually good therapy. About 30% of marriages are "empty shells"--little love, little talk, little joy. Only about 25% of couples have "really good marriages." The remaining 25% could achieve a good marriage if they had the necessary skills via marriage enrichment or self-help.
Recovery from a marital/relationship breakdown is usually slow. It often takes two to three years for a couple whose relationship has broken up to put their lives back together again. After splitting up, many people say they wish they hadn't. Four out of ten people regret their divorce five years later and say with hindsight that they think it could have been avoided.
How could divorce have been avoided? What you don't know may hurt you. This Compatibility Test consists of questions that are essential to every serious relationship. Your test results will be accurate for you whether your mate takes the test or not. Your mate does not have to take the test because you will be rating your mate, as well as your relationship, strictly from your viewpoint. It is not a test of facts, but moreover how you are affected by the facts. Because relationships are very emotional, they can be difficult, if not impossible, to evaluate objectively. This test has been scientifically designed by Aundrea Adams, PhD, a professional Relationship Advice Expert who has earned degrees in human behavior on both undergraduate and advanced graduate levels. Dr Adams, being also a doctor of holistic medicine, approaches relationship counseling from a holistic viewpoint, which includes the trilogy of the whole person,-- body, mind and spirit. As a qualified relationship counselor, Dr Adams offers this very accurate Love Compatibility Test For Couples, which will enable you to look at your relationship as a whole, not just the problem areas. It is based on statistical research that accounts for divorce statistics. The final analysis can prevent unhealthy relationships by teaching people what to look for before it is too late.
Healthy relationships involve much more than true love and romance. Regardless of how long you have been together, you can now know for sure if you and your mate are soulmates, or if your relationship is even worth saving. Couples often find themselves complaining about behavior that they noticed while dating, and before becoming seriously involved. But they failed to explore these issues because they did not know the right questions to ask or what action they should take to further investigate. Sometimes it is easy to be blinded by what is really going on. This Love Compatibility Test For Couples will make it very simple for you to have a clear understanding of the strengths and weaknesses of your relationship with your significant other, whether you are dating, living together or married. If you are really serious about the future of your current relationship, you will find this Love Compatibility Test For Couples to be an invaluable tool that you can apply over and over throughout various stages of your relationship. Couples who take the time to get to know each other have the best chance for lasting romance. The test is very in-depth and covers many key issues pertinent to healthy and successful relationships. The qualities that you will be evaluating will never become obsolete. The test is divided into these 8 categories...
Effective Communication Skills And Common Interests
A good relationship is virtually impossible without good communication. It is important for couples to realize that whatever you are planning, thinking or feeling will directly or indirectly affect your mate. One rule of life is that whether it is business or personal, knowledge is power. The more you know, the better you can prepare yourself to act accordingly. The most important quality of your relationship is how well you and your mate communicate with and relate to each other. Effective communication is the lifeline of every relationship. Communication means talking, listening, reading body language, understanding, learning each other's sexual behavior and caring about what each other is saying. Also, for a relationship to grow, couples should share activities and interests that are both meaningful and enjoyable to each of them. If one partner is always giving in to what the other wants to do, this will eventually lead to feelings of resentment. It is true that opposites attract, but you and your mate must have enough qualities in common to sustain a long-term meaningful relationship.
It is important to treat your mate with kindness, patience, respect and understanding, whether someone else is watching or not. Mistreatment toward your mate often leaves irreparable emotional scars. There is no way to have a healthy happy relationship if you do not make your significant other a priority in your life. Your mate should be as important as anything in your world, including your family, your friends, your work and your hobbies. Otherwise, it is inevitable that you will have serious problems in your relationship sooner or later.
Research indicates that couples are more content than ever before to be in loveless relationships. Couples are choosing to get together [or to stay together] for reasons that have nothing to do with a personal intimate love for each other. The reasons include money, power, prestige, status, familiarity, or what they deem to be best for the children. Although most couples claim to feel some degree of love for their mate, the actual feeling of being “in love” has almost become a thing of the past. It is very possible to have effective communication, share common interests and to treat your mate very well, and still not be in love with him or her. The feeling of being "in love" with someone is quite different from experiencing warm feelings of love for someone. These two feelings can be lightyears apart. Being "in love" is the feeling of incredible excitement associated with your mate. The brain triggers a surplus of endorphins which cause the exact same high that drug addicts experience. This level of excitement bubbles up and permeates your heart, mind, soul and every fiber of your being. Like a drug, it is an addiction. Being "in love" with someone who does not or cannot return this feeling can be dangerous. It can result in perpetual disappointment and significant depression because you will find yourself always hoping that maybe one day your mate will feel the same. If you are the type of individual who does not experience this level of emotional passion, you may be OK with it. This is a personal choice.
It is always beneficial for couples to share similar values. Couples split everyday because they cannot agree on cleaning house, having children, raising children, going to church, or many other decisions that eventually take its toll on a relationship. It is important that you and your mate come to terms with each other's values, attitudes, opinions and beliefs about issues. For instance, you may have a problem if one of you is basically honest and the other is a habitual liar. Or if one of you is a giver, and one is a taker. Or if one of you loves romance and affection, and one is uncomfortable with it. Or if one of you has a flirtatious behavior, which evokes feelings of jealousy and insecurity in the other. Many couples who might have the makings for a good relationship split because they could never agree on the same religious beliefs, or how far to push the limits of the law, or whether the commode seat needs to be up or down, or whether the toothpaste cap needs to be replaced immediately after each use, or whether to have a pet, or whether to eat meat, and so forth and so on. In a relationship, even minor issues become major. This reiterates why constant effective communication is absolutely essential. You may not agree on all issues, but you must be able to reach a happy medium that you both can live with.
It is very beneficial for a couple to share the same social style. A homebody in a relationship with a social butterfly may eventually cause problems of jealousy, insecurity and resentment. Another very important aspect of social style has to do with how your mate conducts himself or herself socially and relates to other people. A person who is compelled to follow the crowd or keep-up-with-the-Joneses is probably not very grounded in his or her own identity. This type of behavior is likely to result in an insecure relationship. You also need to consider whether or not your mate is kind, considerate, polite and thoughtful toward others. If he or she tends to manipulate people or use them for his or her own selfish motives, you will likely eventually be the brunt of that same treatment.
Physical fitness, health and good hygiene are obviously important because no one really prefers to spend a lifetime with someone who is at a high risk for sickness or early death. It is very important to know your mate's health history and health habits. But like it or not, we live in a world where physical appearance is equally important in value, if not moreso in many cases. As the old adage goes, beauty is strictly in the eyes of the beholder. In other words, mental chemistry has a mind of its own. You may suddenly find yourself attracted to a certain physical characteristic in your mate that you thought you would never be attracted to. This is because physical attraction is more than physical appearance. Chemistry is the term that refers to the electromagnetic vibration that operates on a level beyond which the five senses can perceive. In a relationship, it boils down to not how you look, but whether you and your mate like the way each other looks.
In your relationship you should also evaluate your partner's ability to be responsible and dependable. You need to assess whether he or she is willing and able to fulfill his or her obligations and to take responsibility seriously. You also want to check your mate for common sense and problem-solving skills with issues involving everyday personal matters as well as business decisions, safety precautions, organizational skills, security of personal property, securing your future together with insurance policies, wise investments, providing for emergencies, etc. You need to see if you have a person who is generally level-headed or who jumps to conclusions. You need to know if your mate is open to learning and applying new knowledge that may benefit your growth as a couple in the long-run.
It would be great if we could all just live on love or simply the "fat of the land". But unfortunately, we must have money to survive, and surplus money to thrive. The amount of money it takes for you to be comfortable is your own personal choice. But it is essential for you and your mate to understand each other's financial habits, values about money and his or her financial goals. Spending habits are an indication of one’s character. Although it is a sensitive topic, find out about your mate’s debt and credit status.
Final Analysis of the Love Compatibility Test For Couples
Based on your answers to this Love Compatibility Test For Couples, your final analysis will yield a rating of Excellent, Good, Fair, Poor Or Failure. You will receive prompt professional accurate results with helpful serious advice from Dr Adams, the Relationship Expert. With the analysis, you will be able to recognize the specific problem areas as well as the strong points. You will see your relationship from a much clearer perspective and will be in a better position to decide if your relationship is worth saving. All communication between you and Dr Adams will remain confidential.
